sooo funny. A friend of mine recommended a MC that she was seeing. I was on the phone with her for about two hours. I think I got more out of my conversation with her than I have gotten out of all my IC sessions over the past 6 months.
Obviously our time was limited...but she believes that his therapy will be extensive. There are many issues going on and it will not be an overnight fix...especially because he is opposed to medication. She says that bipolar tendencies are very strongly inherited and that by what I explained..she believes that this is probably the case. I always thought of bipolar as being very manic over months...and then depressed over months. My husbands moods are hourly. She told me that they can cycle hourly. My husband also doesnt appear manic (symptoms that I read)...she said that the manic phase manifests itself in many different ways and can also be very subtle. But the cycling typically does occur.
She questioned me on why I want to save my marriage (she asked the same question several times in several different ways)... I didnt really have any good answers. I think I have been just so determined to save the marriage..I really haven't given this enough thought...or at least enough logical thought. She also said that some people just need to exhaust all options before they throw in the towel..
The coffee comment is just a taste of the way my husband behaves. It is not only directed to me although I typically bear the brunt of this.
Leaving the hospital the other night...H didnt even say goodbye to his mother. They have always been so close. He is angry with her for telling him that she does not need to accept all of the decisions that he makes in his life..especially when he is being so self destructive. He won't speak to her since then. His mother was devastated. My H told me this morning that he was going to have a talk with his mother and let her know that if she wants to have a son and ever see him..she must accept whatever decisions that he makes- good or bad. My MIL has always been so supportive of everything he has done..it is breaking her heart to hear him talk to her the way he has.
Is he just super manipulative? I have lived with this man for 10 years..I am somewhat used to this behavior..numb..The MC said she would like to meet with my separately..It made me feel like I may have just accepted his behavior even though it is somewhat abusive. (just by some of the questions she was asking me). I have always been a strong person..but now I am questioning my motive to save the marriage. Is it my strength? or is it because I have been worn down by him?
