thank you all!!! I guess I don't accept he is "with" OW because he is not receiving mail at her house and has not divorced me.

You are right, blownaway, that this could be his rock bottom. Hell, it might be mine! I don't know. We'll see soon. I promise!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004