Detach - how I hate that word! But you're right. I am glad he opened his mouth and spoke to me instead of the cat. I can see that as babysteps.
Here's how I deal with the plane - I told him this was his own debt and I want no part of it financally. We wrote and signed an agreement stating such. So it's up to him. As long as my financial needs are met I can detach around money. It's the fact that he's abaondoning me emotionally that I struggle with. I still yearn to hear "Lots of couples have hard times but you are worth it and I want to work this out." This is what I need to detach from - I'm not getting it and nobody knows if I will.
