Calling all affair annihilators & boundary setters

[Greek]

I like what you and Greek suggest - to sit him down and have a serious discussion letting him know I know everything. His 2 options include - restoring our marriage or divorce. When I have this talk with him - do I bring any of my "evidence"? I also have a log of all the time he's spent with DD since he moved out and much beer he drinks when he comes to visit (which I think is inappropriate). I guess I just want him to know he's up $hit creek without a paddle.

I did not suggest a DISCUSSION. I suggested that you tell him what you have decided. There is nothing to discuss, Courts. He either ends the A and commits to his family, or you divorce him. He would LOVE to discuss this - swear that there is no A, that you are insecure and crazy, blah, blah, blah.

You do not NEED to bring the EVIDENCE. You BOTH know what's what, Courts.

There is one order of business with him right now and that is: Will you be married to Courts or not? Lay the boundary down for him and then enforce it. You will not be in an open marriage.

Greek