My first question is, were you intimate with your wife AFTER she had sex with OM? If so, you need to get STD tests.

Is she aware that you know about OM?

Have you gone to counselling?

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I was rude, criticizing and mean to her because she would always fuss, nag and be rude to me, so it became an endless cycle.


It takes two to start a marriage. It takes two to keep a marriage going. It takes two to break it up. It only takes one to have an affair. Short of abuse, drugs or violence, there is NO excuse for an A. End of story.

Stop blaming yourself.

Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y
Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010

"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient."
"Delay is the antidote for anger"