Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

Exactly. It's like that saying, "the pot calling the kettle black". haha. Yes, his parents are the master enablers, but I think H is a lot more like the newphew then he would like to admit.

So surgery is planned for the last weekend in March - so 3 weeks! He will spend the first night in the hospital. I would like to be there for him as much as possible, but I don't know how much he will allow me to. I don't think he will be able to stay with me tho after that b/c we have a cat and he is deathly allergic to cats, and with his asthma, he can't really handle more than 1 night. Maybe he'll stay with his parents or maybe he'll just tough it out on his own?

So anniversary today. Unfortunately, I don't think I'm going to see H today. Instead, last night, when I went to go pick up S, H was there. I was totally shocked after his blow up with his family the day before. But he said he was over it and doesn't let things get to him anymore. Interesting. Then he wanted to do dinner with me, so I invited him over to dinner with my family. He was super helpful and fed S for me while we ate, so that I could actually eat warm food (S can feed himself, but he still doesn't understand potion control and will throw everything in his mouth at once & start choking! So, we still have to feed him one bite at a time). But it was great of H to step up a bit. Then he helped me bathe S and get him ready for bed. We talked for a bit about everything and then he left awhile later. Lot's of good talk, but the one negative thing was that he was talking about the single bedroom apartments he was looking at again and was talking about how much they cost, etc. So I kind of threw in there about how much 2 bedroom apartments were and it kind of freaked him out, so then I kind of tried to recoil a bit. I kind of just wanted to throw that carrot out there to see where he was at, and now I know. It's sad that he seems to want to be apart of our lives but still not want to make a "home" with us. =/

So going back to today, last night, H said that he would probably not being seeing me today, and that he would just see me when we get together on Friday. He thought his time with me last night should count - which I appreciate - but still, I'm a girl, and i'm emotionally tied to dates. Today is our actually day and I would have liked to have seen him. Oh, well. There's always tomorrow to look forward to. As far as gifts and cards, he said he didn't want any of that, so whatever, but I decided to make beef jerkey (his favorite!) just to do a little something. I am not expecting anything in return, but i just wanted to do a little something special.

So, newest happenings, H just texted me now to see if S needed anything from the store (a first), so I let him know a few items. So it's good that he seems to be stepping up a bit as a father with S and I hope it continues. Spending a few hours a week with S and buying him a thing or two is not a father, but it's a good place to start. So wwe'll see how the rest of today goes!