Avoiding the doormat - need advice

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Thanks for checking on my thread HB and I appreciate your words of encouragement.

What she is doing, also, is throwing a fit because you will not allow her to "get her way"; much like a three year old that says "MINE", and you say, "No, you have to share." They throw a fit, but it makes NO difference. In time, they learn to share with others...bad analogy, but I hope you get what I mean by this.

I get this completely; exactly what it feels like. My 7 and 10 year olds do the same thing. I think this is one of the things I am meant to learn. I have been too much of a softie and give in too easily. That's part of how I lost myself.

As an analytical person, I am just having a hard time dealing with the irrational thought process that she uses. I'm wearing a hole through my tongue I am biting it so much. There are still times when I find myself trying to explain to her, but it doesn't work. It is really helpful to hear of your similar experience and to know that it will eventually pass. Hard to see that at the moment but I am patient.