re: the name game.

Yeah, it would have been better if you had at least been acknowledged in this question.

I, too, would feel like it was my gosh-darn name and not want X to have it.

But, perhaps it is like the wedding ring--it's a gift, you can't ask for it back.

But it does seems miserable (And in time it won't matter) to have your name permanently attached to someone who is no longer part of your life.

I would be very upset, too.

But if there is no choice in the matter...there is no choice. Reality is.

Sorry