It also might be a good idea to stop talking about this to all of your mutual friends and relatives. The more people that get involved, the more convoluted things get. Talking to a counselor and getting a support group and talking to one friend who can keep her mouth shut is sometimes the best bet. You will get a lot of conflicting advice and people trying to get you to dump him because they don't like to see you in pain, even if that's not really what you should do right now.
