I read your first post. He sounds like he's swinging between undecided and decided. Pressure will not help. Start getting a life, trying to detach, and fixing the complaints he had that you KNOW are true. For instance, you said he had a concern that you two argued too much. Can you make an appointment with a counselor for yourself and start getting to the bottom of this issue for yourself? If you fix this M or not, you will not want to ahve that happen again in this relationship or in the future. So take a hard look at yourself and start immediately addressing his complaints that had any legitimacy. If there are other issues that involve him (commitment, deployment stress or depression), you cannot address those. He has to. Maybe things will cool down and he will be willing to. Do NOT get in a round of fighting with him when he contacts you and returns from deployment. EVEN IF HE STARTS IT. Start reading some things about how to defuse and step away from conflict and reschedule discussions and call timeouts to be talked about later. Listen and validate his concerns if he decides to bring them up with you on his return. That's what people around here say is good to do initially. Good luck. Know this is hard and scary right now.
