WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

you did hit the nail on the head with regard to my personality - very calm and easygoing. I can be opinionated and passionate in debate, which was a turn off for my W.



Do you understand why?

Yes, she feels like I am better than her at debating. She felt intimidated. I have definitely worked to get better at this so she is not intimidated to have a discussion.

Tactics of pursuit obviously go against the DB principles, and that is what I'd have to use to fight for her, do you not agree?


Pursuit and standing up for your woman are not the same things. Pursuit makes you look needy, clingy and weak. Standing up for and fighting for your wife makes you look strong, in control and decisive.

I think I grasp the subtlety there. The same action could be classified as pursuit or fighting depending on if it is delivered with neediness versus confidence and not worrying about the outcome?

I'm not going to let pride and ego get in my way,

is this one of the reasons you get so passionate in debate, someone disagrees with one of your beliefs?

No, I have no problem with disagreement. I just don't debate things that I haven't spent a lot of time thinking about and making sure that my position is sound and backed up by facts. When someone takes a contrary position I just like to try to convince them using the facts I drew my position from. Not trying to be an ass and saying "you're wrong, I'm right", just an enthusiasm for getting someone to see another side of things.

I really don't think she's testing me with the flip flops.

Then you don't understand what your wife wants from you.

I don't know what the "it" is that she speaks of. And she can't put it into words, so I don't know if I'll ever know unless I stumble across it.

I WANT to take care of her.



She doesn't want to be taken care of (now you are Daddy in her mind.) She wants you to love her.

Taking care of someone when they are sick is a sign of love, is it not? But I know what you are saying.

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Find the "it" become attractive to her. [/quote]

That's my mission.