Aver, way to go on the letter. Whaddaya got to lose, right?
Dating? Sounds intriguing.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
WIN –verb (used without object) -to succeed by striving or effort: He applied for a scholarship and won.
–verb (used with object) -to succeed in reaching (a place, condition, etc.), esp. by great effort: They won the shore through a violent storm. -to get by effort, as through labor, competition, or conquest: He won his post after years of striving. -to gain (a prize, fame, etc.). -to be successful in (a game, battle, etc.). -to make (one's way), as by effort or ability. -to attain or reach (a point, goal, etc.). -to gain (favor, love, consent, etc.), as by qualities or influence. -to gain the favor, regard, or adherence of. -to gain the consent or support of; persuade (often fol. by over): The speech won them over to our side.
It doesn't ALWAYS denote an adversarial process!
You WIN every time you do the best thing for you - strive to be the bigger person - influence your own life... You get my idea
T
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ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
T-that's great, thanks. That helps. Not power OVER, but power TO. Power to succeed. Power to be healthy. Power to be good to me and my friends, my work, and my community.
Here's the reason I am posting at work when I am trying not to!
I thought I had set up email rules so that X's mail would go right to X's folder, so I could read whatever he has to say when I am ready.
But darn, I forgot his iphone comes across with a different sig, so there was his little note: RE: the house in my inbox at 7:30am.
I moved it right to his folder. I will look at it MUCH later tonight, after I have achieved tasks: work on work stuff; work on the theatre stuff; maybe pay some bills.
And I do think I can have a little something with my town meeting escort, K. I forwarded on my "thank you" to him and his reply to me to a girlfriend, and she concurs that he is interested.
It would do be a world of good to have someone to...just even hold hands with at a movie. Whatever.
OK--breathe, breathe. Leave X's note in X's file. Read it later.
OK Everyone - Call to help - Pearl has mentioned this a couple times and Its finally getting to me. My friend TryTryAgain has been getting bad DBing advice for a while and I've been posting to counter -
Everyone get on TTA's thread and provide GOOD DBing advice - this person needs to see what DB is really about!!
TTA - You have been doing a good job of taking the few nuggets out of that advice and then discarding the rest. I am NOT trying to be horrible on here - but this is getting ridiculous. His advice is NOT DB - its important that people on here get the support this board is MEANT to offer. Mind reading, catering to your WAS, giving in, denying your feelings, and doing what you think your spouse would want based on what you think they are thinking is NOT DB. Thank you for posting as you have been lately - I don't think I'm the end all be all for advice, but I know bad advice when I see it. I'm hoping this call will get others posting for you so you can see that there is consistency in what I'm recommending.
Lets support each other the RIGHT way! T
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
I'm with you. I want to take care of myself, and have things be fair & equitable. That shouldn't be a contradiction, for me sometimes it feels that way, as when I met w L re: S agrmt.
I'll check back to see if you hear from X. Yes, I think a date might take your mind off it!
I'm contemplating waiting to read it until Tuesday am when I am at my C. I know I can be stronger than that, but if I have an hour when someone is there to talk me through it--why not take advantage of that?
Besides, I am SO busy!
Maybe there'll be a sheriff at my door when I get home, waiting to serve me papers. Maybe he'll be cute!
Wow, I am sounding much more cheerful than I really am. I think I am delirious at this point, really.
