Ring On or Ring Off????

[Mach1]

I do not believe that divorce is the answer for us. I believe to the bottom of my soul that this is wrong.

Thoughts...Feelings

I know that I have accused you of approaching this without emotion and I have accused you of not experiencing any pain over all of this. I know this is not true. On the handful of occasions that I have tried to talk to you, you have remained silent, but I see the pain in your eyes. I know because of the way that you have avoided me, how you are handling this, and what all of this means, that this is not an easy thing for you.

Assumption

I told her how much I still care for you,

Guilt

Yes he will be angry---he is no matter what. I've fought that battle for a long time-----bending over backwards to try to make this all work and keep him happy with the "situation." I know it doesn't work. I know that I've lost that battle and am doing my best to work on me. I have made progress, that doesn't show here---especially at times like this.

It always affects me emotionally in some way when I see his anger. I am most affected today by knowing that I need to send something, and not send what I want to send. I am also compelled to call him and tell him this instead.

Where are YOU at right now....

You have spent a lot of time trying to make "this" work, and trying to keep him happy.

I hope that you can see that his happiness has nothing to do with you "keeping" it for him. That has to come from within him.

Who has been keeping YOUR happiness through this long battle ?

I have preparing my kids for competition this Saturday----

To me....THIS seems like a much more productive way to spin YOUR happiness...

and he will be there

And you are going to let that spoil something that has nothing to do with him....For you?

Who really cares if he is there or not?

This is about your kids.....not him

If you shift that focus on HIM, then you are giving him your power for that day, and all of the preperation that you did...

Stand proud of you and your children.....let him spin in the wind


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