Thank you all for the HUGS and Reality check. I am just so very angry with him and his behavior sickens me. I have decided to write an email message to him which reads...
"As I asked you, I would prefer that you do not show up without someone present considering the status of this situation. You have made yourself out to be the innocent party.
I have spoken to a lawyer and there is a one year period on separation before you can file per the state of virginia laws. I have my rights as do you, specifically as a military wife.
Furthermore, you indicated to me that you are still being deployed in late April 2010. As a result, I will continue to live in the house and you will continue to pay all bills as you have been doing since we have been together. We can then talk about this when your deployment is up.
You had the affair with a subordinate under your authority. I believed that our marriage, your integrity and sense of responsibility would never allow you to engage in such an activity. As such, you should know that I still have the emails exhanged between you and the OW even after you begged me to delate them.
Your decision has been detrimental to our relationship; I understand how you feel, but the question is why. Only you can answer that and should think about the consequences of your actions."
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
