Wow thats so great that your life is now moving along like this. Who'd have thought hey, that you would end up making such a huge exciting life change as MOVING to Thailand for a year !?? And to teach right? I'm so happy for you. Of course it doesnt make up for the hurt and disappointment of what H did to you. Its too soon to reflect hey, but I guess you can suspect that you will see that your life took a more interesting turn, as a consequence of something you had no choice over. And you gave up that job that you were stagnating in, which is cool too. Are you anywhere near 28/29? Thats the Saturn Return time, when we often chuck in our jobs for a new career/go back to college or generally just change the direction of our lives (and yes, many R's that started in the early 20's can break up at this time).
Hugs to you, Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I'm 28 and a half Al, so that sounds about right I'll read up on it, thank you.
Argh, it's so hard to be here. I literally can't keep still. Luckily I'm meeting my friend for a long lunch so that should help...
I'm also feeling quite zen at the moment about h stuff. Everything just all seems ok and I feel on the right track. Of course now I've written that I've probably jinxed it but for however long it lasts I'm just enjoying it. And it is so nice not to be tormenting myself constantly for the first time in 2 and a half years
Enjoy the long lunch. I hope the weather is good enough for you today that you can include a nice long walk with it. That always seems to help with my fidgeting.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Lunch was great although, not surprisingly I ended up paying as I always do with her. Sigh! The weather was beautiful today Mish, although still very cold. The crocuses and snow drops are out now and it is lovely. Spring is my most favourite time of year!
Next time when they come to take your order, say that this will be on two checks please. Maybe she doesn't realize this bothers you even a little bit. If we want others to change we have to change first i.e. the way we handle the situation.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Just a quick observation. Today my friend told me about this couple that are having typical marriage problems (totally fixable but they are considering splitting up) and they are going to Relate (a charity that runs marriage counseling here in the UK) and they are putting their trust into a random stranger that they know nothing about to fix their problems without doing a single bit of research. None of the couples that I know that have been to Relate have saved their marriage as it is very much 'explore your feelings' etc.
Maybe you could have your friend pass on info about DB? Such a waste to throw time/love/trust etc in the can over something that could be overcome. We aren't teens anymore after all.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I'll read up on it, thank you.