I can remember going through similar thoughts, feelings. I took my maiden name back - I didn't want to be among the string of Mrs. whathisnames (he's on #3 now). I took his name as a symbol of our joining our lives, when that was done I felt the only appropriate thing to do was give it back.
I went back to my maiden name also, for pretty much the same reasons. Our lives were no longer joined, so I gave it back to him....and he immediately gave it to the new Mrs. X (formerly the OW!) It wass a hard choice for me because of my kids, but I talked to them about it and even put it that way with ther, that I took his name becuse we were married, but now that we weren't going to be married, I was giving it back. If I had decided to keep it I would have done so because of my kids, and with no thought of how he might feel about it.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
