I had read back on your thread and thought I had caught up (when you had told about OM trying to get you arrested, the retirement party, etc.) but for some reason....I thought the arresting thing was some time back. I didn't realize it was recently. That is crazy. Doesn't make any sense. When is he scheduled to actually move out of town?
He apparently is more dangerous to your W's emotional/mental health than I thought. The very idea of him doing that! What was the purpose? Does his W just stick her head in the sand too?
Your W needs "somebody" to yank her butt in gear!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
