For example he calls me and asks me if I would go shopping with him to Costco. He said,"It's hard to shop just for one, we could go together and then divide the big packages". I was hesitant and he said "You don't sound crazy about it, but It would be practical". It would be practical, we still operate from our joint bank account. So do I go or not???
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Pros: 1)According to DB being his friend is good.
2)I would enjoy shopping with him, he was never interested in going shopping (especially for food) while we were together.
3) He wants to do something with me
4) He actually called and asked me to go
Cons:
He might be just using me
I think that the benefits outweigh the risks. I think that I will go.
The choice is yours. But consider some things.
Your MLCer used the argument that shopping together would be practical. That is interesting since it is impractical to abandon your wife and child for someone who also believes the best thing is to abandon her husband and children. I am being serious here, not sarcastic. Adultery is not practical.
He wants you to help him out when it is in his favour, when it is practical to and for him.
Jack talked about the LBS having responsibility when there is cake-eating. That is true, but cake-eating is not always clear-cut. Be his friend, but there may come a time (and that may be now, or it may not) when that becomes cake-eating. It is a delicate balancing act. Due to the way he discussed it, I am concerned that his shopping request could be enabling.
True, MLCers often feel overwhelmed by life's burdens. But that does not mean it becomes your job to make everything easy for him.
