She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[flowmom]

These quotes from GIMA's thread have me thinking more:

Your W has what is called masked depression. She seems "normal" but she is not. Inside she is in major trouble.

AND

What would it take to not hate her?

I guess my question is, what if she had cancer? Would you have more compassion for her?

If yes then remember she is sick just change the disease in your mind.

It's clear my W is sick: Bi-polar, Alcoholic, depressed. I took a vow of marriage, for better or for worse. Divorce is a problem for me.

Awoken, I think you do have compassion for your W. Unfortunately, though, mental health problems and addiction destroy the fabric of M, unlike cancer.

It must be so hard to watch your W flake out as a mother. That is the best illustration of the fact that the M is not the issue here. This separation will give you both some space and it may protect the children from some of her toxicity.