Puppy - I meant that of all the stories I've heard where one spouse finally had a very direct talk, MOST of their spouses did agree that they want to stay married, they want to be closer, they don't want to be divorced, and they want to somehow overcome their problems. Specifically I can think of Lucky Girl, Bagheera, Cinco, Ali, and Silly. Those are the ones I was thinking of because they had that direct talk.
Now...maybe their spouse didn't say "oh yeah, I want a great sex life, like you do"...but the real reason behind wanting a great sex life is usually to be closer and more connected, right? So by their spouse saying "yes I want to be closer and connected and in love again", even without saying "yeah I want more sex" was what I meant.
Sorry I wasn't clear. But the stories with little to no improvement seem to be the ones where the HD spouse didn't actually have the direct talk I am speaking of.
