Thanks all for welcomes! Open bar, I'm sticking with stout. But Karen, I'm a coffee lover too.
My W and I (well, STBX) are generally OK around each other, even spending time together sometimes, but it can get intense. She's generally all over the place.
I don't know Karen... I said to her the other day: Do you know what your problem is? (This made her start laughing) Then: You lack consistency. (That made her really start laughing)
Yeah, I generally don't know what to expect from her day to day, but I think we're pretty much going through with the D.
With the arrangement we're talking about - they're living with me, but they're with her during the day (before / after school), we're generally going to see each other every day.
That'll be a hoot. To be honest, I think it leaves a little too much room for arguments. But nothing in this situation is going to be perfect.
Stronger? Yeah, I suppose so. I'm getting myself sorted out. Perspective? Acceptance? Self-preservation? Who knows. I know I need to move forward. Again, from Churchill: If you're going through Hell, keep going.
I was thinking today, though - nothing is forever, is it? This may sound like a downer, but it's not intended to be... but every relationship we have is going to end. People pass away, people leave. The only one we're stuck with from birth to death is ourselves. So - the value is in the moments we do have with each other. We had good moments. There was a lot of good.
And now, I've got to invest in my future, and my boys' future.
We have mediation tomorrow - the intention being putting together the final paperwork.
