Only advice i could give is the less you send msgs or call like he may expect, the NC will or could make him think, hmm w didn't call/text me, I wonder.....
It may come across as pursuing.
the ironic thing is that during the first of our seperation, i didn't feel like i could do much changing in myself, i just implemented the lrt went completely dark but didn't come out of it well. when i broke silence i went back to my same patters and behaviours.
ex: being judgemental, advising h, going overboard.
i did allow him in delievery room, and he said yes we should work it out, but 1 day after we brought kidos home he messed up greatly, and i did the next day.
he doesn't understand it's a process of going back and forth. i think i need to chill for a bit.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
