I don't think she (or I) ever had the right environment and need to build love. I just kinda went with the flow. I just can't do that anymore because when she's down and out, she hurts me too much (talks about leaving, etc.).
So, if there weren't kids, I'd be gone. I know that. There are enough differences, that even if I find love that can carry me on, I wouldn't be willing to put up with the cultural baggage and things in her personality that I am uncomfortable with. On top, I have ADHD so I come with a package of really good stuff and some not so good. She has always had problems accepting that I am who I am. One day she said she found it hard to understand that I forget some things because she thinks I'm too smart for that...! But I do.
And I do have kids. Also, she loves me deeply so I want to try hard for her. Not because I love her, but because she is a good person even if I can't see eye to eye enough.
If God sent a message that I'll always be unhappy with her, I'd go. I don't know that. I want to make sure I've really opened up and tried to feel with my heart. Corney? Maybe.
The honesty thing...I want to change, but not so that I can stay married. I want to change because I want to be a better husband regardless of who my wife is. Exception: if it is a little thing, I can change that to make her happy. If that isn't clear TBL, let me know.
When you said it was the opposite POV, could you let me know what you saw? There's that ADHD thing...