Looking for Advice

[Greek]

Unless your W can say, without any stipulations, that she is ALL IN, then the decision about the job YOU will take is YOURS TO MAKE. It sounds like she is keeping some commitment in reserve, yet trying to drive the bus on what you will do with your career. In a healthy M/Partnership, I would expect you to consult and accept contribution, to be considerate of the impact on your W. But if she still has even one toe out of the M, seems to me this decision is YOURS.

Let her get angry. That's her deal.

As long as she is not all in, this decision is not hers to make.
Greek