I look at him and just about crumble into a pile of anger & sadness.
Cut that out.
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When I recently saw that his condom “stock” had been used and replenished, I sent him a couple of texts and left a note in the car telling him that continued cheating is a deal breaker for me. I don’t think he takes me seriously
Bingo.
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I want to do the best thing possible to save our marriage.
Why? This is a question you MUST answer. Not to me - but for yourself. Do you want to save the M for its own sake? B/c you love him? For your D? B/c you cannot live w/o a man or this man? B/c you are afraid to be alone? B/c you want to be taken care of?
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I desperately want her dad & I to raise her together.
Lose the despair. It will suck the life right out of you.
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What do I do? I have evidence – copies of his cell statement, hotel reservations, purchases, etc. Do I use it? I can’t force him to answer my questions or confess and I feel stuck. For those that have experience with affairs, please give me feedback and guidance. I will listen. Right now IDK what to say, or do or how to act. This affair is like a whole other life that my H leads and he’s been doing it for so long. Can I break it up? I’m so exhausted from going through this – every time it looks like there is hope for us – some kind of bomb gets dropped on me and I have to start all over. I need to set boundaries with H. I know I can’t control him, so what can I actually do? The reality of the affair has smacked me right in the face and I need help. I feel totally betrayed & disrespected. I’ve been here hoping, grieving, waiting - trying to stick this separation out & he’s been out cheating on me. I’m lost about what to do. How do I even start to address this?
EDITED -- Advice given was not in line with Divorce Busting principles -- and could cause serious consequences.
