For Sandi2

[elscotto]

Wow. Sandi, you and others just seem to be soooooo sure that this will not work out so well for her. I have to think you and others who seem to provide me wise advice are right. It just takes so much faith to sit on my hands and take the high road. I haven't always done this through this past 6 months and there are times I wish I could take back but the more I get advice like this the more I find strenght to just do the right thing and be cool. Shoot--I am guessing that if I continue to do this it will accelerate recovering from the marriage as well and probably will make the point of whether she suffers her decision moot anyway. I guess I know and hear more frequently that paeople matter of factly refer to her affair. Whatever--it took me a while to decide that it was not a reflection on me and that people weren't looking at me and saying what a loser. I decided they were probably looking at her and saying what a dumba$$ and how could she leave a great life?

Its easy to say but hard to start doing but my saving grace is good friends who have listened to me for a lot of minutes, working out and exercising, and recently I have added religion to the mix--not because I am religious but because its hard for me to sit in a church service and dwell on bitter and angry thoughts if I pay attention to the message.

I hope I can log in and offer some advice to others in the future. I have done huge complex business deals, manipulated incredibly complicated situations, built businesses, and other things that seem challenging in life but never imagined the wallop this hits you with--never. We'll all survive though--and prosper--if we want to.