BEFORE I went, i bought over a dozen save your marriage type books, including several on infidelity.
I read them, but I also left them OUT in the OPEN... she SAW I was working...
WHen I left the house, she woudl SNEAK into them and read passages... I made sure I KNEW EXACTLY where i put the books and there was always a few moved when i got back...
I woudl even put the bookmark in the spots that I wanted her to read... I NEVER ASKED HER to read anything, i knew she woudln't.
She LOVES reading... she couldn't resist..
I led by example...
I booked an appointment with a FT, I did all the research, and I told her about the appointment and I led by example... she would NEVER have gone if I hadn't started the ball rolling... but I NEVER pursued her to go... I made sure she KNEW it was HER CHOICE.