I went with my wife to three different FT's.

BEFORE I went, i bought over a dozen save your marriage type books, including several on infidelity.

I read them, but I also left them OUT in the OPEN... she SAW I was working...

WHen I left the house, she woudl SNEAK into them and read passages... I made sure I KNEW EXACTLY where i put the books and there was always a few moved when i got back...

I woudl even put the bookmark in the spots that I wanted her to read... I NEVER ASKED HER to read anything, i knew she woudln't.

She LOVES reading... she couldn't resist..

I led by example...

I booked an appointment with a FT, I did all the research, and I told her about the appointment and I led by example... she would NEVER have gone if I hadn't started the ball rolling... but I NEVER pursued her to go... I made sure she KNEW it was HER CHOICE.

You just have to do the same.