I will stress a point here. This list :

He's lost
He's frustrated
He's confused
He's depressed
He's deluded
He's anxious
He's stressed out.

These are the symptoms of a wayward spouse.. but they are also the symptoms of an affair.. how is this the case? Coincidence?

Not at all.

Affairs often begein because of these wayward symptoms and waywards going to teh WRONG people for advice.

Affairs, don't treat these symptoms.. they AGGRAVATE them... they make them a LOT WORSE...

So, now your H is a LOT WORSE rather than better ... get him to FT NOW by leading with an example of what ADULTS DO.

Tell him how you feel.. list the symptoms above and tell him... I feel like THIS, so I need to see a family therapist... that's what parents do, that's what adults do... and you go.

HOPEFULLY he gets it soon... if you can get people to talk to him to beat him over the head with this... then do that... but YOU need to just show him by example.

If you find a FT that you like, get a biz card and get the FT to invite him by hand on the back... and leave the card with your H... don't even hand it to him... drop it on the table so HE has to CHOOSE to pick it up.

Then you wait for him to call them.