flowmom | shifting from devastated to rebuilding

[flowmom]

And pretty damn cheesy on his part, saying such things within earshot, probably accidentally-on-purpose.

Yes, I assume it was accidentally-on-purpose. Like he's too much of a coward to say it to my face but he can vent to my best friend and on the phone right beside our precious sleeping child.

It hurts (the ex part especially). Don't take it personally. I believe that the one who does the most widespread woe-is-me broadcasting of their sorry lot in marital life is ultimately less credible in the minds of those who hear it and hear it and hear it. Those people ultimately grow weary and less believing and are more apt to say, "Boy, I wonder what flowmom's side of this. Notice how she never complains or vents to anyone?..."

I don't know. I assume that many people think "well she must have been a real piece of work" if he would leave his children who he's so devoted to...His social circle consists of old out-of-town friends, and friends from work or his sport. So they will probably not hear my side of the story. H is very convincing...he even convinces me that I've been a misery to be married to . Hence detaching!