First, yes, laptop. A go-go 21st century gal such as yourself needs a laptop.
2nd, glad we are not Valentine's Day anymore. Looking at a D is fine. Aged 10 years in a year may be true, but not very cheering. How about SWF with 2 Dogs seeks New House?
I just don't know about the S agreement asking him for 1/2 L fees. Yes: you need not to care if he gets upset. He's not going to suddenly fall back in love with you and ask you to take him back if that clause is NOT in there, right? But I don't know what is usual/common to ask for in a D agreement.
Believe me, I totally understand that you would have that fear of "oh, this will make it worse!" I am in the same boat with the house and even this stupid theatre thing. But--I try and talk myself down with: he's left. He doesn't love me. I suppose it is worse if he hates or resents me: but I still have to fight for what is right. And if it is normal to ask for 1/2 L fees in a separation agreement, ask for it. It is all negotiation at this point, right? You ask, he asks, the L's find an answer.
Weird on NC about the April 1st move out date. Frustrating because it still leaves you in limbo!! Do you HAVE to move out by the first? or did he just WANT you to? Will he move into the apt? Is it worthwhile breaking NC to see how the sitch stands, or to give him a BRIEF update: I'm still looking for a place. Am doing my best to be out by X date. Please let me know your plans.
And the mail: can't you forward it to him? why hasn't he done a change of address? As I don't WANT to know X's new address (though I do, I am just blocking it) I just mark any mail that comes to him with: Please forward. And at least now EVERY day I steel myself for getting mail addressed to SweetThing at the house. Hasn't happened since I got her debit card number, but you never know!
The roller coaster goes up and down; I get motion sickness but I breathe.
Oh-the alt--is Facebook. All the oldtimers on the Boards were very coy about it, but I finally got it figured out. Set up an alternate persona as Avermont. Would love to chat with you there if you do FB. (with all your free time and slow computer, I know)
