WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[sandi2]

I did not physically walk out of my M, so I can't tell you from experience what the pattern would be. I was almost a WAW in an EA. I can tell you what I think your W may be doing by what you posted. I can give my opinion based on how I felt and what I have studied.

Like I said, I believe that both of the EAs have run their course and she has said that she is NOT ready to date anyone yet so I'm just not sure of her mental state.

If she's in & out of A's that quickly, then this last one may have run its course, but I doubt she is not either involved in another one or at the least...looking. I think she is giving you a big pile of bs about not ready to date anyone yet! And, here's the thing....you "want" to believe your W. That's normal. But, as Puppy would say....."all cheaters lie". Even if she never told you a verbal lie, her actions lie. That is what I did as a WAW. I never told my H a verbal lie, but I was a cheater...so that made me dishonest....that made me a liar. (That still hurts me today to say that.)

Her mental state.....I would not know how to advise you about that. As I said before, she really needs a professional. I don't mean for this to sound cold hearted, but you need to think of yourself and decide if you are ready to go the long haul, b/c she may or may not get better.....b/c she may not get professional help. It "could" be mental....but it may not be, either.

Is she just enjoying her alone time?

Yes!

Is she questioning her decision?

Not yet.

I agree that you need to take her off your credit cards and banking accounts. Don't give her financial support other than what the courts may say.

What do you tell a WAW who asks you to do favors for her

Tell her you did not S from her so you could be her handy man You are fresh out of favors. Hand her the phone book, give her a quarter.....I can think of several things.

and what do you tell them when they say things like "I thought we were going to be friends"?

Tell her you didn't get M to have a friend. You already had friends! You got M b/c you wanted a W! You still don't want her for a friend b/c she does not have the character that you want in a friend!