No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

sandi,

Thanks for getting back to me. To a certain degree I had put the OM out of my mind until he showed up to get me fired.

After that incident, I triggered and got even more upset at the fact that she chooses to ignore it. I mean I could have gotten into alot of trouble with my boss, but she didn't even ask if things were okay. And the fact that he's been trying for a couple of years to get me arrested was just icing on the cake.

I get the feeling that she's like an ostrich with its head buried in the sand. She wants to ignore that it's happening and it will all go away for her.

I really don't mean to come off sounding as a parent, but there are certain times along with what happened with her boss that I am not willing to put up with her attitude any longer.

For instance, today we got into a conversation about our youngest D's schooling. I wanted her to one school for the academics, whereas my W wanted her to go to the same school as my oldest for convenience. I was trying to discuss with her the pros and cons, but she adamantly refused to see any one's point but her own.

At one point she rolled her eyes at me and said "whatever". That's when I held my finger up and said "stop. We are having a discussion. I'm not saying I'm right and I'm not saying I'm wrong, I want to discuss this which means I'd like to hear your opinion." I told her that it was this type of thing that I wanted to improve our communication in.

I told her that ever since she's moved out she's actually more confrontational than when we lived together and that needed to stop. I reminded her in 18 years we barely argued, but now she just wants to start it every time and I wasn't taking it any more.

It was more of her portraying herself as a victim. I asked her if she honestly cared about me in light of what her boss was trying to do and she said 'yes'. But whatever.

Her family's enabling doesn't seem to help much either. I told her that I was afraid that we wouldn't be able to afford our youngest daughter's tuition and she said her mom was going to help pay for it.

So she really doesn't have to do anything as long as she keeps her head buried. It's the rest of us that have to pay for it. Honestly, even when I went dim with NC, she didn't call, no reaction, nada. Yet she's always sad when I see her.