CG said: What you also have to remember is your H gave himself the luxury of detaching from you all the while you were living with him pre-bomb. He made sure he was comfortable and okay and things were done on his timeline before he said a word. Now you are being forced to not only accept all this but "detach on command" and it is NOT easy. I think that is the one time I had the urge to just haul off and slap my husband across the face as hard as I could... when he looked me dead in the eye and told me he had been thinking about this FOR MONTHS and made sure he was okay before he left. It is MUCH easier to detach when your safety net is in the next room. Not so much when you are abruptly left.
TRUE! He eased himself into it and gobsmacked you.
