Regarding what was said about your ex's anger, I can see that. I think the waywards use anger and contention to fuel their drive to act as they do. If the WAS stay perpetually angry at their spouse, it makes it all the easier for them to commit any action they deem necessary against the LBS.
My ex is the same way. Unfortunately, I can't seem to let some things slide as I probably should sometimes. It's hard when some of it is so outrageous. (See my latest post in my thread for a good example.)
Picked the kids up tonight. Quick question for you: They told me after I dropped them off X took them to Daytona Bike weekend Saturday through Tuesday night, and took them off school Monday and Tuesday. He prearranged their absences through the schools. No mention to me. Is this totally kosher behavior, or should I mention it to the attorney? Anyone's thoughts on this?
My opinion would be that both parents should agree to school absences like that. I would like to think it wouldn't have to be in writing, but that would depend on what kind of cooperative atmosphere there is. XW took the younger guys to Flagstaff to see their brother, and to ski, they missed a day for that. She mentioned it to me ahead of time, and I didn't have a problem with it.
I'd tell him that absences like that should be mutually agreed upon. And if it happens again then get the attorney involved. Why waste more money unless it's absolutely necessary.
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I have the L's services for another week or so. After that, I would have to hire another L and really don't have the money to do retainer, etc. The judge is deciding on our custody this next month.
Karen, that's just not right. Your xH should never do anything like that without you both agreeing upon it, even if it is his time of custody. In my book, school always comes first and anything else has to be treated as a very rare exception. Keeping you in the dark is just wrong.
If the shoe were on the other foot, do you think he would take kindly to you not so much as telling him you were letting them skip school? I think not!
I did email the L; no response back. That's fine. I move on now. Be good to have it over with. I have the kids this weekend so happy about that.
I did make a mistake this week. S16 had written a wonderful poem for his English class--the teacher thought so too, not just me. I emailed a copy of it to X, who also didn't reply. I get it; I get it; doesn't care to hear about the kids (like I would if the situation was reversed). I will go pitch black...
That's right. He isn't you. Just be civil and go on your Merry way. I know there is a lot of hostility for a while. Remember this past June with my ex and we had been divorced nearly a year by then!
Hope everything else is going well.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Yeah, Kat, you and your X are getting along a lot better now right? One can only hope!
X's final motion/order came in the mail Friday. I stuck it in the glove compartment without looking at it. I don't plan to read it. I would throw it out, but feel weird doing that until this is over. I will then though. I feel nothing in his doc is going to be anything but lies and stuff that won't help us coparent in any way, that is if he ever decides to anyway.
Great weekend with the kids. We went to see the Mr. Fox movie (kind of weird for a kid's movie, but we did like it), Monopoly, homework, church, etc. I love time with my kids.
It's not like we sit and talk if that is what you mean.LOL That would be a long way down the road.
I still don't see how you can be divorced if you haven't signed anything. Maybe each state deals with that differently. Hope you are doing well, I will try to catch you later.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
