BUNS, ABS, AND HEART OF STEEL #3

[TRUSTING]

FIB,
Your post was so well put. OW was in my kids life from day 1 after the bomb. Ex paraded her around like a steed in heat. I had to come to grips with this person in my children's life quickly. Looking back on those initial days, I was extremely threatened, scared and concerned about my children's sense of morality. I was worried that my kids would love this adulteress more than me. This did not happen. My kids first stated that she was nice and good for ex. As time went on, they saw her for who and what she is. Every month brings a new revelation to them about something amiss with her character. There is only one mother and one father. Unlike our ex's, our kids don't replace us. They are often much more mature and wise then our ML'ers.

My ex really really felt OW was going to replace me with the kids. I think he was hoping this would happen as another form of sick revenge of the Ml'er. He stated this directly to me.
He said he was wrong, the kids would never abandon me like his mother had abandoned him. Heavy stuff, isn't it.

I've had an amazing week. I got to experience a little more of what is going on in my Ml'ers world from an outside source. My ex's father (if people remember) was in a motorcycle accident last July. His passenger was killed who was my ex's stepmother. She died instantly. He had many surgeries, lost his spleen, a good part of his colon, etc... Anyway, due to the accident, his liver is starting to fail. Ex's OW is pressuring him to the hilt to get married, he is getting farther and farther in debt, he is miserable. I have mixed emotions about what is going on with him, but the bottom line is that it is what it is. I have no control over his life or the consequences he is and will experience due to his MLC. I am at the point where I really don't care.

It is very difficult to comprehend why they hate us so. When we are the victims in this mess. My ex's mother was the same way, eventually everyone she was close to she eventually hated. All I know is that is a sad way to live and I want no part in that.