New here but have been a voyeur

[pearlharbr]

FWIW, BF was in his own apt for another three months after we started piecing. That is quick for some sitchs but for us it was equal to the amount of time he was out of the house before piecing.

Is your H and OW working together a deal breaker for you?

When BF wanted to come back to me I told him what I wanted out of a relationship and that I doubted he could provide it. Then it was up to him to say yes, he could provide it, and think of ways to prove that. That way I wasn't making a list and acting like a parole officer checking up on him and he wasn't just complying with my list of demands.