This is promising... particularly with this person referring to themselves AS a marital therapist... rather than a psychologist...
I would like to see more comments about HIS approach... there's a lot of chatter about the different views in western culture and what's going on, but not a lot of claims to what HIS position is...
I would LIKE to hear him say affairs are addictive I would LIKE to hear him say I treat WS's having affairs as addicts I would LIKE to hear him say the third Person attacking the marriage has NO business involved in marriage therapy or that of the couple, even if there is a child involved with the third party
You really just need to be able to summarize your situation VERY concisely, and ask him what his treatment would be... If he is going to reccomend H END contact with OW and pursue supervised visitation with Ss only... that sort of thing, then you are in business.
if he won't make a commitment to that or anything, be wary... If you can't get your THERAPIST to make a commitment then I am not confident about him much at all.
He SHOULD be able to take a firm stand and offer you confidence, hope, and specific diretions that he's heading in...
I would LIKE to see some solid POINTS as to where his values are set.. its easier to evaluate him.
1. Marriage comes first 2. Affairs are addictions 3. Permanent No Contact with OW is an absolute must
It makes it a lot easier for a person to evaluate quality of services when they are summarized this way... But, what is written there IS promising.. I am just afraid your H may be given something weighty to read like what's above and he won't likley read it... Or even want to.
