Just give her what you know....keep it direct and to the point. That's what I did when I confronted one OMW. I told her about the call logs that I had; the messages on my W's cell phone; the card in glove box of her car.
He ended up having to change employers. He filed a restraining order against my W.
Well the OMW won't tell me where he lives, understandable. She works at the same place OM and W work. She is going to do some digging for me. I don't expect much.
I had it all set up. FIL was going to watch S8. I had a bottle of wine she liked. I called W to give her the time she could come over. She didn't have a problem w/ FIL watching S8. It was all set. Then she shows up....w/ S8! Damn! Don't get me wrong it was to see him, but damn! She knew what I was planning and was very sorry. FIL had to work late, so he couldn't watch S8. She drank some of the wine. I mentioned they could stay, but didn't push it. I kept it all light. Acting like it was no big deal. Cool, confident, happy.
They stayed for about an hour after I was done fixing the car. She gave me a big hug before they left and said thanks. She sent a thank you text at bed time and followed with a good night.
When we are together it feels like we are a family again. It's so hard to hold back.
I got called into my bosses office this morning. Looks like I might not have a job much longer. When it rains it pours.
OMW and I have been emailing back and forth like crazy.
OM has been married before (on his second divorce @ 31). We discussed how much of an alcoholic he is. Basically how much of a looser he is.
She confronted OM about my W. He confirmed they had been at a bar for about an hour two weeks ago. He said W "wanted" him a year ago but he shut her down. He has told her no every time she would make advances towards him. (I'm sure that's why she was so attracted to him.) "nothing happened and nothing will happen, she is a psycho" he stated.
She tried to look at there phone records but OM changed plans and she can't access them.
I still have her looking into see if W was at his house on a specific date. I don't believe him, but he has nothing to loose, his marriage is 99.9% done now. Everything he has confessed to thus far is accurate. However they are nothing compared to what maybe true.
OMW won't come right out and tell me where he lives, but she maybe braking down. She has asked me several times if I know even a little bit she will tell me if I'm right or not.
W could have thought she would start something w/ OM but he blew her off. Now she has no one. It could explain why she has been a little nicer the last few days.
Just be careful about what you hear from OMW. You cannot be 100% certain of their agenda.
I got in touch with OW xboyfriend after d-day#2...he wanted revenge on the xgirlfriend and told me a bunch of crazy lies and then told the xgirlfriend lies about what I told him about my H..because he knew it would get back to my H...and his main concern was to hurt the xgirlfriend and my H. As soon as I caught on to this game..I stopped all contact. You have enough to deal with...no extra drama necessary.
OM is out of the picture. If anything physical happened, so be it. He wants nothing to do with her.
What do I do now?
Our R is in limbo. W has not mentioned anything about the D in the last week or so.
I'm showing her I will be just fine with out her. I'm getting on with my life no matter what the outcome. On the inside I'm still in agony, but I am not letting it show. I'm going to let her come to me.
Does anyone have any advise on where to go from here?
