WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

My W still reassures me that there is no OM contact outside of what she has already told me.

Today I told her we have never tried to work on our marriage without the OM in the picture, which means we haven't tried at all. At least SHE hasn't tried, but I didn't say that to her.

I offered to her that we try to make it work for 6 months, a year, whatever, as something to think about. Since she still hedges on thinking that my changes are "just words" (not as much as before, I think she is more confident I'm sincere), and is concerned that if she came back she may find my changes are still not what she needs, this allows her to verify that before we destroy the family. I didn't pressure her or give her the timetable, just told her that it was something to consider.

Now she can't say I did not reach out to her. In my mind, you can always get divorced, so what is the risk? If the OM is truly irrelevant in her mind and has not pressured her with his own timetable, it should not be an issue.