Sorry about the accident. I hope your D only has a strain (that's bad enough).
Talking with them about parenting is tough. I wrote a letter to my H recently that dealt with that. It seemed to go over pretty well. Of course it took me a couple of weeks of working on it so that it had the tone I wanted.
Even though you know your d's are angry at both of you, he sees what he sees. I hope he is having those tough conversations with your D's.
