WAH in MLC with PA

[flowmom]

I'm glad that things seem to be calmed down a bit. It sounds like the boundary that you set "worked" in terms of sending a clear message to your H.

I don't want this to be taken as me blaming the victim in any way and I'm not saying that you did anything wrong in the conversations preceding the death threats. But I just want to share that I would never say or do anything that might look like I was depriving H of access to his children. That would be a huge trigger for him and I would expect fireworks if I did that. I encourage to you set boundaries and enforce agreements with him regarding custody, but to be sensitive of your H's reactivity around this issue. I say this not for your H's benefit, but for the well-being of you and your children.

I'm really hoping that this post comes off as I intend it...