[quote=Clife] Do you think I should stay this weekend and practise my 180's.
He did show concern - he offered a new oven. That is a 180, perhaps, understanding that if he reacts differently than you, it might be a guy thing that drives you nuts but is naturally to him (or me). Excessive texts could be overwhelming him.
Your personal sitch with your dad might be partly leading to a communication problem with him. That's the realm of a good IC!
Should you stay? That is up to you. I think leaving tells him you can't handle being in the house with him and only encourages him to feel unwanted and go. He might need some time alone, but he gets that each week overseas. More separation wouldn't necessarily help.
R22 mentioned that your sitch might belong on infidelity. It may. The issues he's dealing with aren't just piecing the marriage together. I'm guessing your choice of this thread is because you want to do that. It doesn't seem like that is where your M is at right now, with a possible separation looming.
You didn't answer my question - did you tell him clearly that you don't want the separation (without conditions, that you don't want it to happen). Also, did you take ownership over the request (not "I felt you pushed me" but "I felt hurt and wanted to push your buttons, sorry")
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