You are broken. Think about it like a broken down car. You don't go and pave the road hoping that the car will run. First you strip it down (which has happened to you)...then you start rebuilding the car from the inside out.
Now think about what has made the car broken down...the weather over which you have no control. Other drivers bumping into it...over which you have no control. The shape of the roads....over which you have no control.
While you rebuild a car you put it in a garage (detaching) and rebuild it from the inside out. You don't curse the weather or say that you will never drive it again on the roads. You just accept that is what is going to happen.
Now if you are really good and patient...you take your time to rebuild it. Ordering after market upgrades and a high powered hemi....in other words growing. Maybe the hemi gets delayed in shipping, but that happens.
The best part once you are done.....is now have a car to drive. Better yet you can decide whether your drive it in the snow or only when it is sunny. You get to decide what roads you drive. You get to make proactive choices in regards to what direction you go....were as at the moment you are making choices re-actively.
Maybe you drive the road you used to drive that was bumpy, but now it is less bumpy because of the new shocks. Or else you drive a new road altogether...the choice is yours at that point.
The end moral...you HAVE to fix the car before you drive it....or else it is just another broken down car.
