Yeah that expression "cake eating" is... strange??? But we all know what it means and I guess we would all like to do it not only our W spouses.
NO SEX - not that he wants to, but even if he did.... no way under these circumstances (OW).
When I refereed to "cake eating" I meant that he wants to be friends with me, business partner with me and continuing his affair with OW. Since I agreed to continue to be his business partner to DB I have to redefine some boundaries so I don't feel taken advantage off.
For example he calls me and asks me if I would go shopping with him to Costco. He said,"It's hard to shop just for one, we could go together and then divide the big packages". I was hesitant and he said "You don't sound crazy about it, but It would be practical". It would be practical, we still operate from our joint bank account. So do I go or not???
Every time something like that comes up I ask myself "Will this help my case or not".
And I DEFINITELY keep the sarcasm out of my conversations with WH. I just do it behind his back
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
