Why Jack, you've got to get the cliche right, first. The exact words I learned as a child were, "HAVE your cake and eat it too." As in, the child wants to fill her face with sugar, fat and icing sugar AND still have the perfect, untouched cake sitting there to do with as she wishes.
Or, the MLCer wants that fatty, sugary fantasy woman, but still wants to HAVE his wife sitting right where he left her.
But, yah, I found that a stupid saying when I was a kid, too. I guess those were the days before parents directly came out and said "choices...."
