from Gritter-I just don't know what goes through a person's head when they make that decision. It wasn't the BBD (Bigger Better Deal) What value did he gain? Can you truly trust someone to be rational the next time he is confronted with that decision? It's not logical. He didn't value or even think of his commitment. The question is why? And why will he now? I see a lot of hoping his therapist gets to work on him and wishing you will get something better, and "I don't think he's a serial cheater". There is a big IF here and i think you better be comfortable with the reasons and the cure before you let your guard down.
This is my biggest concern. Letting my guard down and having faith in him. My husband was so logical...so conservative..so by the book. He took his vows so seriously when we got married. Before we got married, we lived together for 3 years. When people asked me how it felt to be married, I always said that nothing changed. He would get upset with that..and say that everything changed.. He just felt so different. WTF??? When we discussed having children..he would say that even though he didn't want children..if I wanted to, he would rather have a child than get a divorce. What happened?
Puppy- I definitely look at this like an addiction. He even looks like he is burned out. He has put on weight..looks bloated (I am sure he is drinking too much)..and just acting completely out of character.
But what stops someone who has tasted the illicitness to pass it by the next time it becomes available? My husband is in a position of power...there are going to be other's that will be dangling the carrot. Those morals and values he once had went out the window..what happens from here? Is this a learning experience? We used to smoke cigarettes several years back and decided to quit New Years day. Instead of waiting until New Years day- he quit New Years eve..to just prove to himself that he could do it...and he never looked back. Will this be like his cigarette habit? Just makes the decision and sticks by it? Will he remember all the pain he caused and how little he got out of it (his words)? Will he remember everything that he risked?
