lea74,
You are getting great advice from Puppy and Allen, they have helped me more than they will ever know.

I was struggling to expose my H affair, and I was so scared. Luckly for me, someone else did it via a letter to OW's H and her parents. However, my H still blamed me for it, and believe's I sent the letters. And yes, he did say he was done and that there was no way we will ever work. That was about 3 or 4 weeks ago now and we have had a ton of ups and downs. He seems to be calming down a little from the exposure drama and I'm just trying to keep a PMA.

Hang in there, it will get better.

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10