Wife lost her love for me - my story

[TomLost Love]

Actually in NY it is 12 month period to wait and file for divorce after LS papers have been filed. I am definitely making mistakes with 180, but I try really hard not to text, call, email unless absolutely necessary. I have not asked her where she is or where she is going in long time. I am going to my apartment and leaving her be. Yes - I know it will take time. Right now - I am adjusting to life a bit in the apt and with my son - not going out at all yet - really just moved in. My 11 yr old is suddenly coming home with deficiency reports from school (she never had them before) so this is first obvious effects on her - I am staying in touch daily with her and have helped her with math homework last two nights - once at my apt, once back at house. I hear your words of wisdom above about slowness and time - but I can honestly say that it looks hopeless - W is SO INTO her Facebook, Blackberry, texts, emails, etc that only conversation she has for me is about kids, or our money sitch, or bills, or house selling related. No personal stuff at all. I am cordial, and as confident and strong as I can be when I do answer. Despite feeling hopeless at times - I have not given up - if I do - I probably wouldn't continue to post here. It sucks, it hurts, each minute seems like eternity, but I am bunkering in as best I can for the long road. Later.....