I guess what I simply cannot understand is why you are not more concerned about "life things".
While I can't say I agree, I get what you are saying about the Church being the only institute that can declare your marriage valid or invalid. However, there is a reason we have a separation of church and state.
You said yourself you see no hope in your marriage at all anymore. You said yourself your W is still with OM(s). Almost two years have passed and nothing about the R you have with your W has changed EXCEPT it seems things have started to shift in a better direction with co-parenting.
Whatever the Church declares is what you will live by morally, i I get it. But the Church can't declare things that MUST be addressed by all adults. You recently experienced this w/the health insurance issue.
If the Church looks at a legal divorce as "just a piece of paper" then what is the big deal to GET that piece of paper. It will straighten out all kinds of "life things" with you and your W (money, insurance, who will be responsible for what for the children) and so on.
I guess I have to ask you if you are simply waiting for your W to file (or never file and keep things as is) so you don't have to?
