"The flip flopping is just brutal, but I can't say it is unexpected. I was prepared for it, and even prayed before our conversation that I would be open minded, not emotional, and have the courage and strength to say and do the right things to further our marriage cause."
Holy crap, ain't it the truth! You are doing a great job here. My W is (was) a very commited catholic, never missed mass, said rosary, etc. She is now a Christmas & Easter Catholic. I look up to you, I really do. I hope I have the strength that you are showing when I need it. It's all the more difficult with young kids, isn't it? That's who we need to be strong for and get our strength from. God too, of course. Stay strong!
Thank you for the nice comments, idontunderstand. I get comfort in thinking that my suffering may somehow help another. I have become a sort of marriage relations evangelist to all of my friends, as I see a lot of the warning signs I myself missed.
Really my heart breaks for the kids, as I know I can find a way to handle myself but they are innocent in all this. But W has conditioned herself to ignore anything negative that relates to what happens to kids in divorce. She's convinced they are fine and wants to take them to a kid friendly shrink to prove it to me. I have no problem with that, but if the shrink says they are feeling horrible I don't think that will make a difference to my W.
If she really was concerned about the kids she would not have allowed herself to get in this situation with the OM.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
